I am currently at a crossroads in my life, one that is familiar to many people- what to do after graduation. College is an amazing time of learning and having fun and finding out who you really are and what you want in life. However, that doesn’t make the post-graduation time seem any less blurry.

We, as people, like black and white issues. We like when there’s a clear right and wrong choice. When it’s anything other than that, it gets messy. It gets complicated. We get lost in shades of gray and can’t find our way out.

Sometimes, we have to make a decision on a white and white issue. What does that mean? It means that we have two amazing options that we have been blessed with. It means that although the roads make look different, they are both filled with beauty and adventure and getting somewhere you’ve always wanted to go.

So how do you even begin to make a decision like that? What do you do when you can’t even compare pros-and-cons (shoutout to my fellow type-A personalities) because both sides are full of “pros?”

The first thing is to see what God says in His Word. I know that reading the Bible seems like the Sunday school answer, but spending time in the Word is crucial for having wisdom when making a decision. James 1:5 tells us, “If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you.”

Praying about this decision will also help us to be close to the Spirit and in a better place to make a decision. What does God’s Word say about this situation? Would once choice be better for glorifying God? Is one choice more pure or noble?

Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things. Philippians 4:8

If you’re facing a white-and-white decision, both choices will glorify God and use the gifts that He’s given you. When looking at your options, you should be sure that you are well-informed about both and that you’re thinking {somewhat} realistically. I am a proponent of dreaming big and reaching for goals that seem impossible. I trust that God will do immeasurably more than we could ever ask or imagine.

However, sometimes our emotions can cloud our decisions. Just because something is hard does not mean it is not what God is leading us to. On the flip side, just because we have a wonderful opportunity in front of us does not necessarily mean that it is meant for us to walk through. You can see where I learned that firsthand here. We don’t always understand how God is working. We just have to trust that He is working.

Trust in the Lord with all of your heart and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will make your paths straight. Proverbs 3:5-6

Another important step in making a decision is to receive guidance. Talk to your mentor, church leaders, and any other person who knows you well and can help you see aspects of this decision that you have not seen. Proverbs 13:20 tells us, “Walk with the wise and become wise, for a companion of fools suffers harm.” People like to have opinions, so try to talk to those who are earnestly seeking after the Lord and whose advice aligns with scripture. There are also many great resources online that can help you know how to begin breaking down a decision. 

So maybe you’ve read the Word, spent countless hours praying about it, talked through it with several mentors, and you’re still not sure which direction to go. If that’s where you are, it’s time to put down the rationale and trust that God’s going to do something through you and in you no matter which direction you choose. I believe that sometimes God gives us multiple open doors that are not wrong or right. He is a good Father who may sometimes care more about how we make a decision and the condition of our hearts than what we actually decide. (Keep in mind that I’m only taking about white-and-white issues.)

A close friend gave me this advice: “How can I further glorify the Lord with my life where I am at right now and also in where I decide to step next? I think that it is not so much the where and what as the how. How are we choosing to glorify the Lord no matter what setting or circumstance we are in? He is just so good!”

If our decision is truly a white-and-white issue, then maybe it’s a choice of our own free will. We use what we know about God and how He has gifted us in order to make the best decision we can. Instead of being paralyzed at the fork in the road, we can rest assured, knowing that both paths lead somewhere, even if it’s not what we planned.

“If I’m trusting myself, I will stare at all the possible ways I could fail. If I’m trusting God, I will stare at all the possible ways He’ll use this whether I fail or succeed. If you desire to please God with the decision you make and afterward it proves to be a mistake, it’s an error not an end.” -Lisa TerKeurst, The Best Yes

I love that quote! Our limitations do not limit what God can do in and through us. So go ahead and jump in. Trust Him fully and without limitations. It’s exciting to think of where each path is going to lead us! And if you are facing a white-and-white decision, know that either direction will be used for the purpose in which you were created.

Your friend,